Placing a child for adoption is not a decision anyone makes quickly. It requires a lot of thinking, and talking, and praying, and thinking some more. But at the end of it all, giving a baby up for adoption (or more appropriately, placing a child for adoption), is three major things:
Giving a Baby Up for Adoption is LOVING. Women who place their children with adoptive parents aren’t just looking for a quick fix to an unexpected pregnancy. They’re also not just looking to get rid of their child. Birth mothers, as they’re often called, love their baby so much that they would spend the time and energy of carrying their baby to term, giving birth, and selecting a loving family to raise them. As Sandra, a birth grandmother put it, “Adoption is a compassionate, generous, and loving choice. It will hurt because you’re experiencing a painful loss-but what a generous gift-LIFE!!”
Giving a Baby Up for Adoption is BRAVE. Just like adoption is never a quick decision, it’s never an easy choice either. Giving a baby up for adoption can involve a lot of sacrifice–both physical and emotional. Birth mothers face ridicule and criticism, oftentimes from the people they love most. But birth mothers are courageous women, who are willing to make the sacrifice in order to do what’s best for their baby. Brandon, a husband to a birth mother, has this advice for women considering adoption, “Don’t be afraid. Every child deserves to have a life. Everyone won’t agree with you, but there’s a bigger group of people that understand you.”